Funerals serve a valuable function. Every society has some form of ceremony to help the living acknowledge, accept and cope with the loss of a loved one. Whether or not a particular child should be included again depends on the child and the situation. If the child is old enough to understand and wants to participate, being included may help her accept the reality of the death while in the supportive company of family and friends.

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If a child is to attend a funeral, he/she should be prepared for what he/she will hear and see before, during, and after the services. He/She should be aware that on such a sad occasion people will be expressing their bereavement in various ways and that some will be crying. If possible, someone who is calm and can give serious consideration and answers to questions he/she may ask should accompany the child. If she prefers not to attend the funeral, he/she must not be coerced or made to feel guilty.